Tag: Healing Baskets

Alone amidst the rush of modern life

Have you ever felt lonely?

Isn’t it interesting, that you don’t even have to be alone to feel lonely?   That you can be lonely even if you are in a relationship.  If someone doesn’t listen to you, or value your ideas… it makes you feel alone.   I also see an increasing amount of friends only concerned about themselves and their close families.    They think they are protecting them from the outside world when for personal growth they should be embracing it.  It’s not good for us, our families or the community.  We can learn so much from others.   From how to have successful friendships,  which are often like successful marriages ~ hard work.  To opening our minds and respectfully accepting other people’s views and ideas.  Wouldn’t that make for a more peaceful world?  A more respectful world.  Anyway I really enjoyed this article and hope you do too.

“There is a thread of loneliness running through the fabric of American life. Dr. Robert Weiss, a sociologist who has studied the causes and effects of loneliness, says it is “more common than colds in winter.” One study found that one in nine American adults, and one in four unmarried adults felt “very lonely.”

Why are we, a nation of people living side by side often in crowded locales, lonely? The source may lie in the values of our modern culture. Human beings need to form attachments to other human beings. One fundamental essential is the need for an emotional partner, a “significant other.” But this need is often hard to fill in a culture that doesn’t value marriage, committed relationships, or even emotional intimacy.

We need other kinds of attachments as well. We need friends, people who value us as individuals, and who want to spend time with us. Here again, our culture is often out of sync with our basic human needs. We may be in communities where people are valued only if they meet shallow cultural ideals of physical beauty and financial success. And, no one seems to have enough time to give to anyone else. So, we remain lonely.

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Another reason for our loneliness is that we have the basic need to be part of a stable community. But, communities today are often in a constant state of change, shifting with the economy and a mobile population.

What are the negative effects of our cultural loneliness? Unhappiness, tension, anxiety, frustration, discontent, and a sense of not being connected to others. There is a physical impact as well: studies indicate that lonely people may have impaired immune-system functions, and are more vulnerable to colds and illness.

To overcome the loneliness of our culture, each of us needs to act in some counter-cultural ways. We need to reach out to become friends with our neighbors and acquaintances, to spend time getting to know them. We need to repair and maintain our close relationships and commit to keeping them healthy and to find ways to help others in our communities.

Finally, we need to be active participants in building communities that warmly welcome and stay connected to the people who live in them.”

Article by ~ Susan Britt

Susanbritt1@verizon.net

It’s in the Quiet Times…..

Tuesdays is my volunteer day.  I have been working at my local hospice for several months now.  Being someone who likes to ‘get things done’ and do as many things I can at the same time – I sometimes wonder if my time could be better spent.  I sit in our beautiful hospice facility from 9am – 12.00 and greet people visiting their loved ones who are in their last stages of life.  I share the front desk with big hearted ‘Hubert’.

It seems ‘slow’ compared to my fast moving life.  Four kids, running a company and being actively involved with my church and the school district.  No phones ringing, no packages arriving, no deadlines being missed…..  But I have to remind myself – sometimes it’s in the ‘quiet’ that you can make the greatest difference.  I may only greet 10 people during my volunteer time.  But that is touching 10 lives when they are absolutely at their most vulnerable.

I’ve been in their shoes, which is why I’m sitting at that desk.  And a simple smile, kind greeting, and escorting first time visitors to their loved ones room is probably good use of my time.  Sometimes I rearrange flowers.  Sometimes I handle the mail.  It’s like meditation.  I have to stop myself from thinking of the zillion things I could be doing.  I have to be happy in the here and now and remember always, it’s not quantity it’s quality.  Take a day to slooooooow down.  To hear, to see, to taste.  Because the best inner growth is really in the quiet times…..

To love and friendship,
Caroline Cheshire
Founder of Healing Baskets, Inc.

http://www.HealingBaskets.com

Saving Time

 

So we did it!  We turned back our clocks and  most of our nation observed Daylight Savings Time. These are the last few precious days before Spring officially begins.  When we move our clocks ahead an hour and manipulate our days to seem longer. I’ve often thought how lovely it would be if we really could lengthen our days – to stretch out those beautiful, sunny afternoons surrounded by friends and family and happiness.  Those “4th of July” kind of days.

Sadly, it’s the other kind that seems to stretch on forever.  The days where we are filled with worry – or when someone we love is suffering.  When each minute seems to take an eternity to tick by.   When life is really living one day at a time.

One of the most important roles we can take on, of course, is to provide moments of calm and peace and friendship – those periods of oasis, when a friend we love is struggling.  To show up with a meal (I’m not a great cook but my shortbread is always a winner) or some groceries – or make the time to share a cup of tea.  To listen or to laugh. (And remember, we don’t need to know what to say.   Your presence really is your present!  There really is no obligation to ‘fix’ a situation.  It’s just to be there and listen or hold a hand.  It’s not until you have been through this yourself that you will truly get it.

But time ISN’T something we can stretch or save. It is only ours to spend in better or worse ways.  We need to learn how not to waste it.  I love Google but it can suck up your days, leading you into more and more searches.  I just lost a whole weekend looking into a trip for the family.  And it’s not like I kept any information.  If we decide to go – I’ll go through the whole timely process again.

 


Time.   For some it drags.  For others there is never enough.   Let’s make a deal to try and meet in the middle.  Find some time for those who need to fill some time….

With my thanks and gratitude that you are reading my blog!

Caroline Cheshire
Founder of Healing Baskets, Inc.

PS: To send a great friend a few moments of TLC, consider the “Oceans of Love” gift basket:  http://bit.ly/co5RYr

 

Working Mothers

Of course EVERY mother is a working mother, The art of raising happy, confident families is a 24/7 job.  Throw on top of that the day-to-day management of a household (we won’t even MENTION the laundry), getting involved with Girl Scouts or the PTO and it’s amazing to me that so many of us maintain careers and businesses – and our sanity!

The buzz word for moms during the first part of our century seemed to be balance, and while I welcome balance to my own working-mother life, I have to admit that many days it reminds me of walking a tightrope.

For 2010, I’m thrilled to say that I’ve found a new buzzword and a great new image: RHYTHM.  Rhythm to me means being able to move and sway with the changing needs of my life.  It means that I can move more quickly when my business is very busy and I’m running around with my kids, and sway more slowly when a friend needs a loving ear or help with her sick mom.

And being a working mom, there is even less time to nurture friendships.  We are ALL busy in our own way.  Perhaps our circle of friends becomes smaller. It’s now quality rather than quantity. It’s now those who are there when you need each other.  No questions asked.  No thank you’s needed.  This ‘circle of friends’ makes the life we have chosen be even possible.

So how do I remain surrounded by inspired, empowered friends, when life as a working mom is SO full.  For me, I make it a point to make one connection a month to a friend I don’t see often enough – or who might really need a demonstration of love at that moment.  Okay, yes, I own a gift basket company, so it’s a little easier for me to do this.  But it’s one of the BEST ways I keep my own circle vibrant and current.  Those gifts of love ALWAYS mean so much when they arrive.

You don’t have to own a gift basket company to create this in your own life either.  While it may not be as amazing as my Healing Baskets (a little shameless plug there), you CAN create a very sweet tribute to a friend with a simple mug filled with socks  (Break out the artist in you and hand draw a card or jot down a funny memory or poem.) .   Sometimes it’s a gesture.  Today I’m putting in my friends mail box a cartoon from the Sunday Globe funnies.  She is an avid knitter and this hilarious cartoon of ladies sitting around a naked male model for a ‘figure knitting class’ will certainly make her chuckle.  Her Grandmother died two weeks ago and all I want to give is the gift of a chuckle.  I can’t fix grief, or sadness,  but one chuckle today might be enough to let you know that it will be ok.

So let’s try and stick together.  We have to make time to acknowledge each other and create a meaningful, loving rhythm that can move us through all of our lives – it doesn’t just happen.  It grows by nurturing, and sharing each others loads.  By noticing down days.  By paying attention to each others rhythms.   By reaching out when it is needed and not being too busy with our own lives to notice.

With my thanks and gratitude that you are reading my blog!

Caroline Cheshire
Founder of Healing Baskets, Inc.

PS: To send a great friend the “You’re a True Friend” gift basket, go to: http://bit.ly/aAz5Fb

Thoughts on Sympathy Gifts from Healing Baskets

It’s hard to know what to do when someone’s grieving. No matter how universal the feelings of loss may be, we know that we can never really know how someone is feeling. I think that’s why cards and gifts around death became known as “sympathy gifts”. While we can never completely know what someone’s feeling, our hearts ache for their loss when someone dies.  We know that, on some level, nothing will ever be the same for them. It’s like the thread to someone has been cut, and it’s just flying in the wind, not tied to anyone or anything any more. Sympathy gifts and sympathy baskets are tokens of love. They remind us that our threads are still tied to one another. That we’re not single threads leading from one person to another person, but instead, we’re a blanket built over a lifetime, with golden threads that weave in and out, through friends and relatives and loves and memories. 

Sympathy means so much more than, “I’m sorry.”  It means we’re connected, because once you have lost a loved one things are never truly the same and we now share that unspoken bond.   THAT is something uniquely beautiful and deeply, humanly personal. 

At Healing Baskets, we’re very blessed to carry that sympathy message any time you need to send it to a friend, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the loss of a pet, a miscarriage, or whenever you need to say, I’m still here, and you’re still tied to me.  Our Sympathy gifts and sympathy baskets can be customized to share any message that feels appropriate to you.

To your peace and joy, Caroline Cheshire
Founder of Healing Baskets, Inc.

PS: To see some of the Sympathy Baskets referenced in this article, go to: http://www.healingbaskets.com/sympathy-gifts.htm

 

 

 

A Basket of Love from Healing Baskets for a Friend with Depression

Depression Basket Circle of FriendsDepression has many faces and a million disguises. It can be obvious to friends and family, or it can hide, silently beneath the surface. What are we to do when a friend seems to be struggling with more than a case of the blues or dealing with post-partum depression after the birth of a child? Well, there’s only one thing NOT to do, and that’s nothing. Why is that important to mention? Because in our fear of offending someone, or dread of crossing some invisible line of appropriate behavior, it’s easy to stand back and watch as a friend or loved one can fade before our very eyes.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, over 14.8 million American adults will suffer a depressive illness this year. Multiply that by friends and family and there’s probably not one of us who isn’t personally touched by the sorrow, worry and fear of watching someone we love struggle to find their pathway back to a full life. So what are we to do? First, absolutely start a dialogue. Depression isn’t a mystery any longer, and the stigma is rapidly disappearing. Talking to our loved one and recommending professional help is probably the BEST contribution we can make.

Next? Well, that’s where it gets really tricky. How do we support someone if we’re completely lost for the right words? Thankfully, we don’t have to invent a new language to say, “I care about you.” A warm card sent every week or two, or a beautiful healing basket specifically created to support someone with depression or struggling with post-partum depression can speak volumes.

In fact, each item in the Circle of Friends Basket reminds the receiver that their literally in the loving embrace of the friend who sent it. And that is a very strong remedy any day of the week.

http://www.healingbaskets.com/blue.htm 

To your peace and joy, Caroline Cheshire
Founder of Healing Baskets, Inc.

PS: To see the Circle of Friends  Basket referenced in this article, go to:

http://www.healingbaskets.com/prod_B91004.htm

Giving Care to The Caregiver, by Healing Baskets

I think we all know that something very special is going on when someone describes themselves as a caregiver. I always try to pay just a little more attention once that phrase is spoken. You see “caregiver” is almost always attached to really tough situations in life – either the illness of a friend or close relative, or sometimes just helping someone who’s hit advanced aging. (When we’re more likely to become confused, miss medication, or can’t drive ourselves anymore.)

Caregivers do something magical. They hold space for another person to remain dignified through great hardship. And as we all know, that is not easy. Way too often, caregivers do this without asking for enough support themselves.

So what do we do in that case? How do we support that person that’s taken on the toughest job around? Sometimes it’s as simple as a phone call or an email.  But there are those days that you look in the person’s eyes, and you know it’s just too heavy. 

That’s part of why my company, Healing Baskets, is so important to me.  Every single day, I get to participate in bringing sunshine and joy to all kinds of tough situations and to provide special Caregiver Gifts and Caregiver Baskets to recognize those every-day heroes.  Through Healing Baskets I get to carry the messages of love and support to those who DO the supporting.  I get to create that little something extra in a Caregiver Basket that gives a boost to the one who’s got the whole world on his or her shoulders.  And that, my friends, is an amazing thing to be part of.  

To your peace and joy, Caroline Cheshire
Founder of Healing Baskets, Inc.

PS: To see some of the Sympathy Baskets referenced in this article, go to:
http://www.healingbaskets.com/premade-caregiver.htm

Valentines Day and Divorce – Another Message of Healing from Healing Baskets

What do we say when friends go through the really tough issues – like breakups and divorce?  Get well soon?  Congratulations?  This is definitely one of those times that everything feels inadequate. 

Through Healing Baskets, however, each item in the Life After Divorce Basket becomes part of the larger conversation that one friend would like to say to another – and it’s one way we know for sure what we want to communicate isn’t tied up in our inability to find the right words.

This is especially poignant right now, with Valentines Day (and Valentines Day Gifts) looming like a black hole for some friends, the Life After Divorce Basket is an amazing gesture of love. Included is the “Life After Divorce Book” – an affirming book that shows how the trauma of divorce can give way to growth and the promise of a new life – perhaps a better life; an upbeat Goddess Mug; soft as a cloud Socks; a beautiful Rose Bath Soak to transform your tub into a spa of softening waters and nourishing sea salts; all topped off with five beautiful pocket charms with words of encouragement for when they’re needed them most.

Because this is definitely one time in life (and one holiday) where a little extra TLC can go a very long way! 

To your peace and joy, Caroline Cheshire
Founder of Healing Baskets, Inc.

PS: To see the Life After Divorce Basket referenced in this article, go to: http://www.healingbaskets.com/prod_B91123.htm

 

Healing Baskets: A Different Kind of Company

Courage Doesn't Always Roar BasketWe all know what the typical gift basket looks like – a lot of fussy bows and a grab bag of low cost, low quality fillers. At Healing Baskets, we work every day to build a very different type of basket – in fact, we’ve created our entire company around HEALING baskets. At Healing Baskets, we embraces those subjects we’re barely able to tiptoe around – illness, cancer, the loss of a loved one, miscarriage, depression, 12-step recovery gifts, and Caregivers. 

I feel so blessed that, through my business, I’m able to match my passion with my mission: to support those who are suffering. I try to create something amazing new with each basket.  For instance, when I discovered Mary Anne Radmacher’s book, “Courage Doesn’t Always Roar,” I contacted the author to talk about how inspiring it was and then designed a special Healing Basket with a custom-made Anne Radmacher Mug, created for, and available only through Healing Baskets, Inc.  Of course, we added special small touches to this basket, like warrior engraved soap, a ‘Courage’ Reiki Candle and holder made from essential oils, and a few other things, including the softest comfy socks! The Courage Does Not Always Roar basket reminds us that some days, ‘success’ is just getting out of bed. 

My favorite baskets are probably those born when the customer calls to ask me to help them create a customized, original Healing Basket. Where each item is specifically chosen from one friend to another to support, to heal, and to simply say, “I’m here for you.” Healing Baskets takes great pride in sending that message countless times every single day.  Http://www.HealingBaskets.com

To your peace and joy, Caroline Cheshire
Founder of Healing Baskets, Inc.

PS: To see the “Courage Doesn’t Always Roar” Basket, referenced in this article, go to:
http://www.healingbaskets.com/prod_B91313.htm