Category: sympathy baskets

Grief, and a stranger’s words

After a loss, comes the day to day numbness.  The funeral is over.  The flowers have died.  The calls are getting fewer.  I look at the empty gift baskets and pile of stuff lying on the side that came in them.  Books!  I have no desire to read.  To ‘fix’ how I feel.  I know people are expecting me to move on.  I’m stuck in limbo.  Stuck in grief and I feel that fewer and fewer people care.  I am feeling so alone.  So I pick up one of these well meaning books.  I can’t focus for long.  So I look at paragraphs, rather than chapters.  Then I sleep.  Then I wake and I feel so alone again.  Over time I read more and sleep less.  Sleep is me escaping the everyday pain and emptiness.   I can read longer paragraphs, and actually skim chapters.  And now and again I find a nugget.  I find some ‘words’ that are so pure and wonderful from someone who has walked in my shoes.  I’m amazed that a stranger rather than a close friend can give me relief from my sadness.  I start to collect these words so I can visit them when I feel sad.  They are like a ray of sunshine each time I read them.   My collection gets bigger.  My days get easier.  Not easy, but easier… I’m so grateful for a stranger’s words.

“Miss Me” Poem
“Miss Me But Let Me Go. When I come to the end of the road, and the sun as set for me, I want no rites in a gloom-filled room, why cry for a soul set free? Miss me a little-but not too long, and not with your head bowed low, remember the love that we once shared. Miss me but let me go. For this a journey we all must take, and each must go alone. It’s all a part of the Master’s plan, a step on the road to home. When you are lonely and sick of heart, go to the friends we know. Bury your sorrows in doing good  deeds. Miss me but let me go.”

 

Cheese – PERLEASE!

Cheese – PELEASE!

 Did I ever tell you that Cheese is the reason I started Healing Baskets?

I still remember the day when searching for a special sympathy gift I was encouraged to send a basket of cheese.  Someone somewhere thought that a basket full of cheddar and crackers would be just what was needed to comfort someone in their darkest hour…..

Cheese – perlease! 

It spurred me on to create baskets that would actually bring comfort.  Baskets that were for women who had lost mothers, for sons who had lost fathers, for children who had lost grandparents.  For people who had lost spouses.  For parents who had lost children.  For people who had lost loved ones unexpectedly.  For people who have lost beloved animals.  Baskets themed around my favorite comforting poems.  Gifts sourced from a place of wanting that special gift that I was never able to find. 

We don’t’ sell tear collectors because we don’t believe the amount of tears you shed indicates how much someone was loved.   We do sell gifts that offer comfort and are lasting.    We feel like we are reaching out and grasping your hand with every order we ship.

Thanks cheese for putting me on this path!   You are responsible for Healing Baskets brightening lives one friend at a time.

Thoughts on Sympathy Gifts from Healing Baskets

It’s hard to know what to do when someone’s grieving. No matter how universal the feelings of loss may be, we know that we can never really know how someone is feeling. I think that’s why cards and gifts around death became known as “sympathy gifts”. While we can never completely know what someone’s feeling, our hearts ache for their loss when someone dies.  We know that, on some level, nothing will ever be the same for them. It’s like the thread to someone has been cut, and it’s just flying in the wind, not tied to anyone or anything any more. Sympathy gifts and sympathy baskets are tokens of love. They remind us that our threads are still tied to one another. That we’re not single threads leading from one person to another person, but instead, we’re a blanket built over a lifetime, with golden threads that weave in and out, through friends and relatives and loves and memories. 

Sympathy means so much more than, “I’m sorry.”  It means we’re connected, because once you have lost a loved one things are never truly the same and we now share that unspoken bond.   THAT is something uniquely beautiful and deeply, humanly personal. 

At Healing Baskets, we’re very blessed to carry that sympathy message any time you need to send it to a friend, whether it’s the loss of a loved one, the loss of a pet, a miscarriage, or whenever you need to say, I’m still here, and you’re still tied to me.  Our Sympathy gifts and sympathy baskets can be customized to share any message that feels appropriate to you.

To your peace and joy, Caroline Cheshire
Founder of Healing Baskets, Inc.

PS: To see some of the Sympathy Baskets referenced in this article, go to: http://www.healingbaskets.com/sympathy-gifts.htm