Month: February 2011

The only love you keep is the love you give away…

My two angels - May and Eric - my grandparents....

Valentines Day, like any big holiday can send you spiraling downwards into a funk.  So if you are reading this and feeling unloved, unappreciated and let down, read on….

Firstly, I want you to push aside your disappointments of the ‘present’.  To pack in a box who is ‘letting you down’, and not ‘being there for you’, or ‘appreciating you’ and think, really think about the greatest love you have ever ‘felt’ in your life.

Perhaps it was from your first boyfriend.  Perhaps it was your husband who passed away twenty years ago even though you are happily remarried.   Perhaps it was the first time you held your child in your arms.  And don’t feel guilty here if it isn’t the person you have in your life now.

We have all felt the power of love.  I have been happily married for 25 years and have 4 lovely girls.  But for me the greatest love I ever felt was from my grandparents.  They lived next door to my school and every morning they would wait by their kitchen window to wave at me.  They will never know HOW that made me feel.  The power that two people standing by a window to see ‘little me’ every morning made me feel the most important person in the world.  Sometimes that is all it takes…A look, a wave, a smile.  It doesn’t have to be words, or a ring.

So sit a while and embrace who it was who made you feel loved.  Now remember how it felt.  Ask yourself what it was about that person or action that made you feel like that.  And then say ‘thank you’ that you felt it at all.  Yes be grateful you ever felt it.  Not resentful you don’t feel it now.

The final point of this blog is to let you know that you hold that power right now.  At this very moment you could be making someone else feel like we felt.  Could you volunteer at your church to help in Sunday School, or in the kitchen.  Could you volunteer to hear children read in your local school when they may not have someone at home who notices if they read or not.  Can you walk someone’s dog if they are sick? Can you bake?  Can you simply listen?  It doesn’t have to be anything big or profound to you.  But your small gesture can be big or profound to them!

Getting up, and getting out, helps you get over life’s disappointments.  And you are just going to have to trust me here.  The only love you really keep is the love you give away.  prod_92414

So don’t be broken hearted this Valentines Day.   Remember the power of love.  Celebrate that you felt it.  Say Thank You, and now go and give some away.

HAPPY VALENTINES from the most important little girl in the world!